It was one of the first wintry, icy-road days and we didn’t think ahead. My friend and I headed for our Monday morning power walk at Sandy Hook National Park.
We stepped out of our cars onto a sheet of ice and grabbed each other’s arms for support, laughing about how this could be us in 30 years.
Our hopes for a good walk were quickly dashed as we saw the slippery path ahead.
Hmm…maybe not. I glanced towards the ocean and said, “Why don’t we walk on the beach?”
This might not sound like an earth-shattering suggestion. But, it was. Here’s why.
I’ve lived in Sea Bright, New Jersey for nearly 20 years. The beach is across the street and beautiful Sandy Hook is just a 10-minute drive north. I feel embarrassed admitting that it just hadn’t occurred to me before this day to walk on the beach when snow made my typical route treacherous.
That’s because I had a limiting belief about beach walking being for warmer weather—and I didn’t even realize it. But, that’s the problem with limiting beliefs. They lurk in the far corners of our minds and we don’t even know they’re there.
I bet limiting beliefs are lurking in your life right now. And that if you could identify them you could open up a world of possibilities. If only you knew what those limiting beliefs might be and where to find them. Here are a few places to look.
Maybe you want to start a business, find a new job, discover a passion, fall in love, move to a new locale. What thoughts might be limiting you from doing more than just dreaming big—and get you achieving big?
Check in and notice what you’re saying to yourself that you might not even realize. Do your thoughts sound like this?
- I’ll never find another job if I quit this one.
- I just need to accept my out-of-shape body since I don’t have time to workout.
- I’ll never have as much money as I need.
- Getting 7-8 hours of sleep every night just isn’t possible for me.
- I can’t speak up and ask for what I need.
- I’ll never meet someone who’s right for me.
- My writing is terrible and no one would want to read it.
- I’m not enough of an expert to speak to a group.
- I’m always unlucky.
My limiting belief sounded like this: I can’t get in my power walk today with these icy roads. (Of course I have many other limiting beliefs too!)
A limiting belief does what it says: it puts limits on our beliefs. Limiting beliefs keep us where we are. We become unconscious players in our life’s game.
And when we limit what we believe—we limit what we achieve.
When we question these beliefs, we begin to realize that more is possible. So, here are three questions to help you unleash the beliefs that might be holding you back.
- What assumptions am I making about who I am, what I do, and what I want?
- What buried dreams have I not even considered?
- If anything were possible, what would be different in my life?
Start small by noticing when you’re making assumptions about something you can’t do, be, or have. What are you saying to yourself that keeps you right where you are? Could that message be a limiting belief? What would it take to give yourself a new message?
Beliefs are powerful.
As Norman Vincent Peale said, “Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
Just like my belief that the beach was only for warm weather walking. I bet you have some beliefs that are ready and waiting to be challenged too.
Imagine what you can accomplish when you do.
On that icy morning, my friend and I were exhilarated as we walked into a fierce wind, along the sand to the sounds of the surf. The crystal clear sky gave us a magnificent view of the New York City skyline. We returned to our cars sweaty and energized.
So, I’d say that when we lift our beliefs from an unconscious to a conscious level, we can question them and give ourselves answers that have the power to transform our lives.
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